Why Are We So Rude to Ourselves?

I was talking with a gal earlier today who asked about the Beachbody coaching and how I earn money being a coach. She already has a coach, but had never been introduced to the business for some reason or another. I talked to her for a good hour on Facebook about it and explained it to her. She asked many questions and seemed genuinely interested. I kept telling her she should talk to her coach about it, but she came back with 'well, I'm not ready to be a coach yet. I'm don't weigh 125 yet." - That pricked my heart and made me question...

WHY do we do that to ourselves? Just because we're not a certain weight we can't do something? Because we're not thin or pretty or wear a size 2, we think we can't be a coach or run or kick-box or Zumba. I've done it to myself in the past - so why do we do that? What is it in society that makes us doubt ourselves and talk down to ourselves? Why do we put off doing what would be life changing and incredible because we don't think we'll be good at it? What stops us from loving life and allowing good things to happen? What makes us feel like we don't deserve good, but we deserve to stay stuck, unhappy, unfulfilled and lost? What is it that makes us feel inferior to others who seem to "have it all"; looks, money, status etc Why can't we be content and happy with who we are and who we were intended to be - Our-self?

So many questions, so little answers.

I've learned so much in the last few years being on this journey. I've learned how strong I really am. How capable I really am. How smart I really am. I'm not at my goal weight. I still can't wear a size 2...not that I'd want to, that's a totally different subject. I have a long way to go before I'm where I want to be as far as my weight and body toning is concerned. But I work on it daily. I've learned that I can be a roll model. I can inspire people along the way through my own journey. I can help people...and in turn, all that...helps me! It keeps me accountable. It keeps me real. It keeps me honest with myself.

That's what being a coach is all about. It's not about making money - although it's a very nice perk. It's not about being 'thin' or an expert. It's genuine care of other people and wanting them to be healthy. Wanting them to learn that living a healthy lifestyle is affordable, fun and a life long journey.

No quick fix, no magic pill. Pure, hard, sweaty work. Real, whole, healthy food. A supportive, loving, strong support network. Put all that together and you've got 1st class, top quality coaching. Beachbody Coaching.


  1. You are so right about how we treat and think of ourselves. Sadly we live in a society that puts way too much emphasis on physical appearance. We grow up thinking in order to be a good person we must somehow be perfect. It's crazy how we define ourselves by a number. You have a healthy attitude about it and that's what makes you a good coach. You know you are so much more than a number on the scale. :)


  2. It's interesting that she said that. I thought, I can't be a coach, I don't have a big weight loss story.
    I have a small frame and people have often made rude remarks about anorexia or bulimia. Granted that was 4 babies ago. Even now, I am not majorly out of shape but I feel embarrassed or like I am not allowed to say, I need to lose 5 pounds. I need to really firm up. Because i'm small I am not allowed.
    It is very frustrating.
    I don't have a dramatic story to share like that.
    I love to motivate people but most look at me and like I am clue less. I know what it is like to be made fun of for size. I know what it is like to look in the mirror and not like what you see.
    None of that matters

    1. Dawn - No. None of that matters. Body image whether we are thin, over weight, obese...is so much more than weight or muscle tone. We must accept ourselves as we are. Love ourselves as we are. You are a beautiful woman. There are stereo-types for everyone isn't there? If you're naturally thin - you must have an eating disorder. If you're obese - you must be lazy. If you work hard and earn your muscles with determination and sweat - then you must be obsessed with exercise.
      It is frustrating because people can be so negative and we project that on ourselves til we feel we have to be perfect in order to fit in and be accepted by society.
      That is why I became a coach and have surrounded myself with people who LOVE fitness. Who love being healthy. Who love helping others find this way of life. I've found positive people who accept me for me, all my rolls, flaws and imperfections included.

  3. You are amazing Amy. I love you for being so real!

    1. It's taken me a long time to find the 'real' me, but I do like her! :)